~my Parents wedding~
My parents were the first couple to get married in this church, the Evergreen Church of the Brethren in Greene County, Virginia. My Mother is now buried there, in a double gravestone with my Father's name also engraved, with only the day of his death missing. Both of their parents are buried in this cemetery as well as several grandparents, siblings and other extended family. My Father, for many years after her passing, took flowers from her garden and placed on her grave, on his future grave. For awhile now he hasn't remembered birthdays or special days, and that is fine - and I'm grateful that such days no longer bring him sadness. I suppose that is the upside of dementia (perhaps the only one).
Today is my Mother's birthday, a day that has become a bit sad since her passing almost five years ago. She would have turned 79 today - a feisty 79 I'm guessing. I never quite know what to do with myself on this day - so I did what I know how to do best, and what my Mom knew how to do best - I planted daffodil bulbs. Yes, it's late - but they'll be fine.
A few of the views of my Mother's daffodils and her garden:
Gardens are sure wonderful things - they provide joy, comfort and more.
~View from the cemetery at the Evergreen Church of the Brethren~
A heart-touching post of many layers of loss and one of hope and great beauty, too. It speaks to a steadfastness, a continuity of life and devotion from one generation to another. I think you honored your Mother's birthday in a most fitting way and I'm sure she would smile at the promise of yet more life in the garden. Thank you and best wishes to you and your Dad.
Posted by: sandy lawrence | 17 February 2013 at 06:30 PM
I wish I could visit my mother's grave. But there is none nor for my father. Both were cremated far away in England. When I go back I visit the memorial garden where so many ashes have been scattered. It is a sad time. I love your idea of planting bulbs. I have a rose planted in her memory in my garden here. Such a sad time for you now with your father.
Posted by: Jenny | 17 February 2013 at 10:47 PM
What a great tribute Pam. I know you miss her so much, as does your dad. My dad died 21 years ago this week, at 62. Just isn't fair to lose them so young.
Posted by: Janet, The Queen of Seaford | 18 February 2013 at 10:22 PM
I hope you were able to stay sufficiently busy. I have not been forced to cross that bridge yet.
Posted by: Les | 19 February 2013 at 08:07 PM
That's a beautiful photo and post.
Posted by: 3Dsound | 20 February 2013 at 09:19 AM