On Saturday afternoon, I drove my Mom to get her hair cut (in an unsuccesful attempt to feel 'normal') - and after I dropped her off I raced to a place that always makes me feel better. It's a small church located in Greene County, on a small hill that is nestled against the Blue Ridge parkway. My Father's Father helped build the church - bringing rocks up from a streambed at the base of the hill, and my parents were the first couple to get married in the church (or so family legend goes). My brother was married there as well. I can also have a conversation with about half of the folks in the cemetery - yes, one-side conversations - but definitely pleasant ones, standing in the cemetery on the side of the hill, looking out over the Blue Ridge mountains. It's a place where I feel a much needed sense of continuity - a comfortable place that our family will always be a part of.
So yesterday I said a hard goodbye to my parents, and I raced down I-95 to Charleston in order to meet with a prospective builder at 4:30 pm. I had planned this before I left, before the weekend changed our family forever - and while I thought about re-scheduling, I'm glad that I met with the guy. He brought along his 'right-hand' man, and I liked both of them alot. They weren't big talkers, and more importantly, I felt that they really were listening to me - and when I mentioned 'solar' and 'grey water' systems, they seemed to get into the spirit of what I was after. More importantly, when they first walked through the gate, they both looked up and commented on how beautiful my trees were - which is why I bought the place years ago to begin with. They also didn't even blink when I mentioned living in the Airstream while the house was being built. Someone that I really respect at the lab - the building's head engineer - recommended this guy, and a big plus is that he generally builds one home at a time (he doesn't start ten or more at a time and take forever to get one completed). They even joked with me yesterday, saying 'oh - it'll take us 2-3 years...' when we were talking about Airstream Life - but overall I got the sense they understood everything I said to them. I felt really good about the meeting.
It's Monday, and time to head to the lab and start facing life's new reality.